when things don't go as planned... Here are 3 proceeding steps in order to find the silver lining

There has been so much chaos lately; It does not help that I am someone who gets overwhelmed easily! I decided to write this blog post because I myself NEEDED to hear these tips. I want to be able to BETTER process the crazy in order to stay in a positive headspace (and stay on those higher frequencies/energy levels). Sometimes it's HARD for me to accept the things I can not control. I end up dwelling over unnecessary things and miss out on happy moments. Figuratively speaking, I had to talk myself off the 'ledge' earlier today. ​Here are some tips in finding peace...
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1. The 1st thing that happens is our reaction to new news. How should we react? I think we can all agree that we WANT to react in the best way possible but that doesn't always happen. Considering your hero and how he or she would react could be beneficial to how hard or heavy you carry your new situation/news. React in a PEACEFUL way so that you CAN move on. Sometimes we react absurdly and end up being embarrassed. You want to be at peace with your decisions.
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2. Consider WHY things did not work out and value a possibility you would rather not be faced with even more so than what you thought you (originally) wanted. For example, I wanted to have a destination wedding and Garrett was against that idea from the very beginning. I tried to change his mind several times and every time I brought it up, he always said NO. Now with all of the coronavirus drama, I would probably have LESS people traveling or we may have had to cancel that 'out of the country' wedding. I'm SO glad that isn't my reality - silver lining. This example is probably the hardest to mentally/physically exercise (in the moment). It just takes more work. I feel that this step is a 2-step process. Step 2 is showing gratitude! Yes, I'm glad we are not faced with an out of the country wedding situation and because of that, I am grateful for... I have so many things I could list right here!
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3. Usually if I'm suffering through it, it's because I'm harping over it in a specific environment or just taking it personally. I have to constantly remind myself that it is NOT personal... and I also have the power to excuse myself OR politely change the subject. Sometimes when you're stuck in the "vortex," (all of your classmates, coworkers, and or friends are dwelling over it) it's hard for you not to too. In order to not carry out that negativity throughout the rest of your day, you have to choose to walk away... Literally taking a  break and go to the restroom or bring up something totally random that could shift you and everybody else's energy.

When things don't go as planned, how do you successfully deal? Comment below!

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All selections and opinions in this post are my own.