A statement no bride wants to hear or say... WEDDING POSTPONED! Being the bride is suppose to be exciting, magical, and a once in a lifetime feeling. To suddenly shift gears and postpone your big day is the complete opposite of magical. With everything going on in the wedding industry, learning how to navigate through this MESS can be a bit overwhelming! After brainstorming and speaking with my wedding planner, I've come up with a few steps you can take once you've decided to postpone your big day.
1. Hire a wedding planner! If you didn't already have one, NOW would be the time to hire one. I can not tell you how THANKFUL I am to have a wedding planner. They are the ones reaching out to all our vendors finding out their availability for our newly anticipated wedding date (thanks coronavirus). If this situation wasn't stressful enough, reaching out to 10+ vendors seems like an endless nightmare! Wedding planners are party professionals, this is what they do! They know the ins and outs of the business and they're only going to point you in the right direction. My wedding planner is the best in the business. Not only has her team planned weddings all over the country, but they've planned and executed weddings all over the WORLD. If you're looking for a wedding planner that you can trust on the most important day of your life, hire Sapphire Events!
2. Stay informed! Your big day is super special and important to you and your significant other. Make sure you're staying up to date with all laws and CDC regulations.
3. While your wedding planner is reaching out to all of your vendors, it's important to update your wedding party and guests. I would say that's it's perfectly acceptable to send text updates to let your wedding party know whats going on. Some of them might be able to help if you don't have the budget for a wedding planner (your wedding party is also your safety net)! Allow them to help out with tasks if needed.
4. It's time to inform your guests! Either by email or snail mail, announce your new news. Send out an un save the date or a card stating that your wedding has been postponed. In my opinion, the sooner the better! A lot of guests have spent money on flights, hotels, and so many other things. You want to make sure they have the opportunity to cancel any reservations so they can be refunded.
5. I'm sure if you've postponed your big day, you and your significant other have already had a serious conversation. I think it would also be beneficial for the two of you to discuss what expectations you both have about what's to come. Now that things have shifted, so do our expectations.
6. Marriage license. If you already applied for your marriage license, don't forget that it has a 30 day window. If you've postponed your wedding months later, you'll have to reapply.
7. Don't forget to thank everyone who ends up helping you through this hardship. It takes a village and you want to let your village know how much you appreciate them. Recommend all of the vendors who helped you by sending all the brides to be their way!
All selections and opinions in this post are my own.
When I originally planned this post, I thought I wanted to go into detail about my venue selection, what tips I learned from Valerie, and how we finalized the guest list... but I decided to dive deeper into my wedding planning and tell you guys how and who we hired as our photographer, videographer, band, and DJ. The very first thing I suggest doing is hiring a wedding planner! They CAN and WILL help you with everything, give advice from 1st hand experience, and set you up on a timeline for success! Sapphire Events was the best decision I made (besides saying yes to marrying G!)
My wedding planner, Valerie, has amazing YouTube videos that go into detail about budget, guest list, and your venue selection. So, once we made a deposit on our selected venue, we then dove straight into photo, video, and entertainment.
Wedding Day Photographer: Lainey Reed Photography
Rehearsal Dinner Photographer: Rachel Madelyn Photo
iPhone Photographer: Katelyn Ehrhardt
Videographer: Our Story Creative
Band: Nola Dukes Band
DJ: Kurt Valvis
So I’m sure by now you know that being an influencer/blogger can lead to sponsorships and collaborations. I have been lucky to collaborate with so many great wedding vendors! However, I had my heart set on certain photographers, videographers, bands, and a DJ. I decided that these were the things I wanted to hand select without having to collaborate, because I knew exactly who I wanted. The photographers, videographer, band, and DJ were not things I wanted to skimp on... I knew they would take up a large part of the budget so I planned accordingly. It’s all about balance, right?!
As soon as I picked my band and DJ, I met up with my bridesmaids to pick out songs! I’m not afraid to admit I can be an OCD bride... so we went to a coffee shop and looked through the band’s suggested song list and also put together a playlist for the DJ. I have been to so many weddings with great music that really got people on the dance floor and others where the music was kind of generic, so I made sure we picked a killer playlist! The band was something my mom wanted more than anything else! She wanted a large 10 piece band. (I didn’t even know that was a thing... according to her it is.) Because the band is so large, we actually got to hand select a few of the instruments. That was pretty cool!
For video, I wanted a highlight video a few days after my wedding, so my planners negotiated that into our contract (another great perk of having a planner)! I also wanted my videographers at my rehearsal dinner. In the south, it is very common for guests to give speeches at the rehearsal instead of during the actual wedding (wedding day dinner is usually buffet style) and I wanted to make sure those sweet + special words were documented for us to have forever. And now that we have our photographer, videographer, band, and DJ we can shift gears to focusing on picking out our cakes, invitations, and of course florals!
Make sure you keep an eye out for more videos that showcase the wedding planning process on my IGTV channel.
All selections and opinions in this post are my own.